Taking the Mask Off

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A month or so ago, one of my professors discussed the notion of the self. He began by telling us that when he was a student, he had a professor who at some point asked him and his classmates¬†to think of when they are themselves the most: when they’re by themselves, or when they’re with other people? He then continued to say that while he did think of this question as a very interesting one, he later realized that it made little sense to ask it, since each one of us has multiple selves, not just one.

However, it is still true, or so I believe (and feel free to disagree with me), that some of these selves are …well, let’s just say, not as real as others. Sometimes we do and say things that we don’t necessarily consider to be true, and that we definitely don’t think are in line with who we really are.

Keeping this in mind, it’s easy to think that when we come home, out “masks” come off, and we finally become who we truly are, not having to hide our feelings, thoughts, and finally being able to do as we please, and speak our minds. But is this really true?

Again, I’ll come back to the idea of multiple selves: it doesn’t means that if you act differently around different people, you’re lying about who you truly are. It simply means that you’re elastic when it comes to which shades of your personality you’re going to let shine at that particular moment. For instance, if you’re with someone who you know doesn’t like a certain type of jokes, then you’re much more likely to not make them (that is, if you care about that person).

Now, it may well be that some of the time, you’re going to lie, thus covering your self, or that particular shade of your self, with a mask. Perhaps some circumstances make it more likely for you to do so than others. Regardless, this doesn’t mean that you’re not being your true self when you’re with your friends, simply because you’re not the same when you’re with them as when you’re alone. Those are simply two different versions of yourself.

/Larisa

Making Fun of “Fat People” Exercising

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Want to know something that really makes me furious? Making fun of overweight people who are exercising.

Making fun of people in general is not the kind of activity anyone should be engaging in, to tell you the truth, but I want to concentrate on this specific situation for now.

Let’s be clear on one thing: those “fat people” are out there, in the gym, outside, or wherever else you might see them, already feeling self conscious as all hell. They most probably not enjoying what they’re doing, as even the smallest movement can feel absolutely horrible for them. ¬†Add all of this to the fact that they are under the impression that they look odd while exercising, and what you’ve got is a worsening of the self-conscious effect. In all fairness, they might look odd, but this isn’t because of their weight, but simply because of the fact that they’re doing something that they haven’t really done before, or something they’re not used to. Even a very thin person would look strange doing an exercise that he or she has never done before.

Despite knowing all this, despite being fully aware that they look the way they look, and actually probably thinking that they look a lot worse that they actually do, they are out there, exercising. They are out there, trying to change their current situation.

If anything, that deserves respect and encouragement. Now, you might be thinking to yourself “But I am in no way obligated to encourage someone I don’t know.” That is completely true! You are not. But what you should do is keep your mouth shut at least, as that will not make the person feel even worse about themselves.

/Larisa