The Things You Should Never Tell Yourself

Via 9gag
Via 9gag

I like going on 9gag from time to time, because it’s a lot of fun. Well, what I mean to say is that it can be a lot of fun. It can also be very sad, and sometimes, even frustrating. Lots of people were complaining about the fact that many 9gag users started to post things that weren’t so funny. I personally didn’t have any particular problem with it, because I’m all about people talking about their opinion, and it doesn’t matter if it’s related to something funny or sad.

But then there are the posts that just plain frustrate me. There are many such examples, and maybe I’ll talk about others as I encounter them. The one I posted above is just one of them.

Let’s take each statement one by one, and see what’s wrong with it when said in relation to one’s self:

I hate you

You do realize that you are going to spend the rest of your life with you, right? In essence, you’ve sort of entered a marriage with yourself the moment you were born, and this is not a marriage that you can end by divorce. It’s not a marriage that you should end. So, what do people do when they don’t want a marriage to fall apart? They fix it. There are good things about you, whether you care to acknowledge them or not. They’re there. Be on the lookout, and you’re sure to find them.

You’re weak

Let’s make something clear here, ok? We’re all human beings. No, seriously, we are. That makes us vulnerable, which means that sometimes, yes, we are weak. All of us. Not at the same time, but we all go through phases of weakness, followed by strength. It’s normal.

If you’re feeling weak, don’t blame yourself for it. Rather, look at what made you be that way, and try to fix it. If you can’t do it on your own, then…well, look for help. Even looking for help implies some sort of strength, because it shows that you acknowledge the problem, and you’re ready to do something about it. There is strength in you. You just have to make it come out.

You deserve the pain

So you’ve taken the role of God, eh? You started to decided who deserves the pain, and who doesn’t.

Every single one of us makes mistakes, because, as I said before, we’re humans. If you’ve made a mistake, this doesn’t make you a bad person. It simply means you made a mistake. Try to fix it. If you can’t, then do your best to reduce the negative effects it has. Telling yourself that you deserve the pain won’t solve anything. It will only make you feel horrible, and there’s no point in that.

You’re imperfect

YES!!! Of course you are. We all are. This statement seems pointless to me. It’s like saying “I breathe oxygen”. Yeah, no kidding. So do I! Look at all the stuff we have in common.

But there’s more to this statement, when said in this context: it essentially says that “I breathe oxygen, and therefore I’m a bad person.” Well, then that means that we’re all really bad, because we are all the same in this regard.

It’s ok to be imperfect, really. We all are.

You’ll never be good enough

Not only are you God, but you can also see in the future. That’s quite impressive, it really is! Well, never mind! God is supposed to see in the future, so I guess I should have congratulated you on your impressiveness before this.

Anyway, this statement begs the question “Good enough for what?”. Can you answer it being specific, or do you just think that way in general terms?

It doesn’t really matter if you can be specific or not, because you’re mistaken in thinking this either way. Using words like “never”, and “always” is not a good idea, because they can easily be refuted. So hey! Maybe you weren’t good enough for something at some point, but you can do something to improve it in the future. If you think that you’re not good enough in general, then you are exaggerating. There is something in you, ready to come out and be great and wonderful, but if you keep hiding it, then…

I hope you die

NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO! NO!

Whatever is going in your life, you should know that it will get better. But did you see the key word in that sentence right there? It’s life. There needs to be life in order for things to get better.

These kinds of thoughts are quite commonly met in depression. Many of us might experience some of them on a daily basis, but it’s in depressed people that they happen with a lot of frequency. If you notice yourself thinking this way a lot, then you should look for help. It’s out there, and it will help you smile once again 🙂

In the meantime, here are some things you should tell yourself:

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/Larisa

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